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Kiss & Grind Day 14: It’s Your Mid-Week/Month Check-In

Do you have an accountability partner in life? No, well... I'll be yours today. And here's a little story about why you need one, STAT:

Girl, I don’t know about you, but ‘I’s tied.’ 

I know we’ve all had weekends or vacations that were SO epic that we needed a vacation after our vacation. 

That’s the kind of birthday weekend I just had. I celebrated my 40th Solar return on Sunday, and it literally wore. me. out.

(Sidebar-- still, no kissing action though… but that’s another post. And anyways, my hopes are getting higher. This month is barely at the half.

I ain’t took no calls-- except for 2 clients.

I ain’t been outside.

I ain’t really posted on social.

I hardly had the energy to sit up at my desk to write.

A visual representation of how magical I felt this weekend.
Art by @Lady_Nefertitii

Before you come for me for neither kissing nor grinding, let me explain:

I’d completely forgot how healing work can cause you to feel all out of sorts afterwards. Even though my practitioner warned me ahead of time, I was still completely unprepared for the spiritual hangover that ensued. 

I was thinking I’d jump start my personal New Year with some major glow-up to let my aura bring all the boys and opportunity to the yard. So, I went and made all these plans filled with different energy work and healing modalities. I had a 90 minute reiki session on Saturday, followed by a 4 hour meditation hike on Sunday in the redwoods and several hours at the bathhouse getting my whole past, present and future body scrubbed and then kneaded like pretzel dough.

And yes… it felt amazing during the sessions. My physical body was as soft as a newborns bum after. Plus, I slept like a baby fresh out of my mom’s oven.

And then came Monday and it all came crashing down. I wanted to “push through,” I really did. But I literally could not.

Now, I’m not usually one to complain about Mondays. But when Tuesday crept around and I was still wasn’t feeling it-- I started  to get down on myself for you know, feeling tired from all the awesome I'd just experienced.

But then, these beautiful memes came to me from some extraordinary folks I follow on IG and made me feel so obviously seen, and well... human. 

That's the thing I love about social, it's always there to remind me that we're not alone in these earthly struggles. And that it’s completely okay if, at times, you only have the energy to be in this body. It really is. And as your accountability partner that’s exactly what I want to leave you with during this mid-month, mid-week Kiss & Grind check in. I want you to know, we ALL feel struggle in some way at one point or another.

It’s okay not to be be on the grind at all times. It's okay to not feel like superwoman everyday. It’s not even realistic to think that you can be “on” every single day. That’s how we burn ourselves out-- whether through pushing ourselves too hard, or in my case, foolishly underestimating the magnitude and time it takes to ground and re-center after a self-initiated healing.

The thing, is I KNOW this about energy work. The after effects are sometimes messy and can take a lot out of us so that it can be replaced and fortified with the strength and power that we need to live in our purpose and more fully. Bet no one has ever told you that.

And because I too, am working on practicing what I preach, I’m going to ask something of you. I want you to promise, right here and now that the next time you feel like you are at a critical breaking point and you can’t carry on, please stop and check in on yourself. Call, text your accountability partner. If you need to, you can email me!

Then ask yourself what you need to do for yourself to be alright in the moment?
Is it a quick cry in the bathroom? Is it to go home and binge watch Netflix? Take a walk? Scream?

What is it? 

Then give it to yourself.

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